#ShowingUp with Anese Cavanaugh

It Wasn't 2018's Fault. 2019 is Not the Hero. Wherever We Go, There We Are.

Catching up with an old friend this past weekend, talking about the upcoming New Year and how 2017 2019 is looking, he launched into a rant about 2016 2018. "2016 2018 was so brutal, dear Lord I was just so happy to get out of that year and into the next. 2016 2018 terrorized me. Constant anxiety. People were just a*holes. It sucked. Was so happy for 2017 2019." And on and on and on.

As I listened to him go, I was struck by how many times I'd heard or read some version of this as the year came to a close. Either online, on Facebook, at the airport, or just in the grocery line, there was a song that went basically like this, "This year sucked, thank God it's over, we'll be saved by next year. Phew! Oh ya! This year blew! This next year I'm going to be new!" (I'm not a song writer, but you get my gist.)

The death of celebrities was blamed on 2016 2018. Bad health? 2016 2018. High tension and stress? 2016 2018. Political nightmares? 2016 2018. Financial pressures? 2016 2018. Getting fired? 2016 2018. Not getting a book deal? 2016 2018. That break up? Oh ya, THAT break up?2016 2018

You name it, 2016 2018 did some bad stuff to people.

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13 Anchors to Ground You in 2017 (and a Personal Share)

For any of you who know me, you know that every year, at the end of the year, I send out a list of questions for reflection of the closing year, intentions for the new year, and a share of some of my own greatest learnings. I love doing it and it feels like an important ritual that grows me in different ways each time.

If you're familiar with this process, or are on my mailing list, you likely also know that every year, I say the year was BIG. Rich. Educational. Serendipitous. Painful. Delightful. Always learning from both. Always expansive (if I let it be). My heart, soul, and brain integrating as I go.

This annual ritual serves me, those I love and lead, and the incoming year, very well.

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7 Phrases That Will Make Your Day More Positive and Productive

It's Monday. I saw someone this morning taking my kids to school, "Good morning! How are you?" I asked. "Ugh... hanging in there... Mondays you know??" they offered back.

Personally? I love Mondays. It's a fresh week, a fresh start, and a fresh set of opportunities to create impact, connect with people, and--wherever things aren't humming, redesign.

My first call this morning with a client was peppered with a blend of... "I'm worried about... I'm so busy... I have no idea how we're going to avoid ___ ... We don't want... "

The language and framing was constrictive vs. expansive--and not leaving a lot of room for breath or wisdom--so we gently reframed... "I'm aware of... My schedule has a ton of great stuff on it, AND I want to re-direct it a bit... I know we can figure out how to get to ___ if ____... We do want..."

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You Set the Tone, You Create Your Reality, Lead.

When I travel I get to meet all sorts of people in airports. Those who inspire me, like Jim, 82 years old with a ton of energy, a strut, and a sparkle in his eye, who was flying off to fulfill one of the items on his bucket list; Christine, a surgeon who cares so immensely about the patient experience — as well as effective treatment — that it brought tears to my eyes; Julie, a traveling senior executive with a child she adores and raises alone, who has made her life hum so well that she’s able to be a rock star mom AND rock it in the business world everyday; and Gene, whose commitment to his culture and his employees feeling seen and cared for, is so high up on his priority list — even more so than the numbers — that the numbers are higher than they’ve ever been.

I also get to meet less than delighted people who teach me to use my skills. Take “Bert”… Boarding a plane last week, I noticed him ahead of me in line, made eye contact, smiled, and said “good morning”. Nada. Turns out he was my seat mate. So I got settled, smiled, said good morning again, and asked him how his day was.

“I’m surviving” he said/scoffed. I felt the energetic “dip” (you know what I’m talking about). “Great!” I offered back. I took a breath, smiled, sat back, relished my coffee and the fact that I’d made my flight (it was close), reflected on the intentions I’d set earlier in the morning, and rebooted. I felt my energetic vibration recalibrate and elevate as I got present in my own space and experience (not his), and envisioned the day, and the people I’d get to work with, ahead of me.

Bert sat for a bit, and then asked me this…

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5 Ways Your Personal Beliefs Are Holding You Back

There’s something super powerful running your “show”… and you may not even be aware of it. See if any of these scenarios are familiar...

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